Inside the Love After Kids Relationship Toolkit
Module 1: Introduction and the Problem with Complacency
In the first module, you'll be introduced to the ground rules and structure for how the program works and you'll learn about:
- The specific struggles that having kids can create in your relationship.
- The harmful effects constant parental conflict has on your kids.
- The importance of looking at your situation through a different lens—as an audience member of your own movie—so you can start working on the foundation of identifying and understanding your own habits within the relationship.
- You'll gain insight into how the brain works to process your emotions and feelings to then create states of being.
- You'll learn to identify the signs of complacency in your relationship, as well as practical strategies to break out of complacency.
- Exercises to help you stop living in a world of assumptions, and learn to communicate clearly with your partner to express your thoughts and feelings.
Module 2: Schema Therapy
We kick off the second module learning about several key concepts in Schema Therapy:
- We'll talk about what triggers are, where they originate from, and what the difference is between triggers and memories.
- You'll also do an imagery exercise to help you identify and understand your own triggers.
- We’ll delve into the three main coping styles proposed in Schema Therapy: avoidance, surrender and overcompensating.
- You'll be able to identify each coping style (often called defense mechanism) as well as understand how you're coping styles impact your relationship dynamics.
- You'll learn about some of the most common “parts” you can play, how they each work and how you can “reprogram” yourself to not fall into these parts and roles.
- You'll learn to distinguish between two main types of content, manifest and latent content, and how they each play into the relationship dynamics.
Module 3: Your Habits and Roles
In the third module we're going to talk about habits, specifically four types of habits: feeling habits, thinking habits, behavioral habits and interaction habits:
- Throughout the module, you'll explore all of your habits and how they are impacting you and your relationship—and most important, what you can do about them.
- You'll learn about the core roles in romantic relationships.
- How you can shift between these roles—instead of remaining locked in certain roles—to achieve a healthy and mature romantic relationship with your partner.
Module 4: Implementing Lasting Change
After gaining so much knowledge and understanding it’s time to implement what you've learned. In this module:
- You'll find practical and easy-to-apply strategies for communicating effectively in your own relationship.
- You'll learn how it is that conflict in a relationship can be positive—and how you can take control of your conflict situations and transform it into an opportunity for growth.
- You’ll receive simple and effective suggestions for you to battle complacency.
- You’ll learn to think about and pay attention to your daily routines so you can break off the habits that you don't want to keep living in and intentionally create new routines that are beneficial to the relationship.
- I’ll summarize the most important things we talked about during the program.
- We’ll close with a 12-step plan to get you started in designing an action plan toward getting the relationship you want.